None of us like the word ‘rejection’, do we? It just gives us a dirty feeling inside. Feels like something is pulling your body down. As if the whole world is going to finish.
But my question to you is, does is really finish? Do you really spend the rest of your life moping helplessly on the ground? Of course not! You pick yourself up and move forward. You try to figure out where you went wrong so that you don’t make the same mistake again. And guess what. You turn out much stronger at the end of the day. Just imagine how little you would learn if life was just smooth with no downs at all! So is rejection good or bad then??? Puzzling isn’t it. It feels horrible when it happens but it actually seems to be a good thing in the long run. So if it’s actually good, then why does it make us feel so bad? To tell you the truth, you can go blame it on your ancestors! Huh! Now you’re really puzzled aren’t you!!! Let me tell you something about our ancestors, the cavemen.… During the prehistoric times, you all know how there were deadly animals roaming the earth. So humans had to be really careful and protect themselves. Now just imagine, if you were a lone caveman roaming around, how long do you think you would survive? Not very long frankly. So how could you increase your chances of survival? By roaming around in groups. And who got to be a part of these groups? The strongest guys… and girls of course! Remember the adage ‘Survival of the Fittest.’ It actually comes from those times. So the strong ones survived being a part of the group while the ‘rejected’ weak ones were left to their own fate! It was thus a matter of life and death during those times. I know that sounds rather mean, but that’s the way it was. In fact, isn’t that the way it still is? People flock around strong and successful people and want to belong to their group, while nobody cares for the weak ones. In fact we are often advised to only associate with successful people as it will motivate us! So you get where I’m coming from, or rather where the fear of rejection comes from? It’s imprinted deep in our DNA. I guess God forgot that the world is not inhabited by such creatures any more and he can remove the fear from our systems! But until he does that, at least you now know the reason why we are so scared of being rejected and as a matter of fact even alone. It’s really an automatic reaction for us and there’s not much we can do about it. Or is there? For more such article visit The Yellow Spot
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